I was told it was my fault, that I gave us a computer virus.ġ2.) My gay ex-husband brought strange men home as if they were drinking together.ġ3.) Strange Phone Calls-A strange man called my house once and said my husband was supposed to meet him for a cookout I did not know what that meant at the time, the man sounded disappointed. He constantly deletes the browsing history.ġ1.) Gay Porn on the computer. They start to see you as standing in their way.ĩ.) Disappearing not saying where he is going.ġ0.) Fixated on his computer, or phone, never allowing you to see anything personal. Mine blamed me for everything wrong in his life. I believe this is why they become narcissistic.Ĩ.) He is moody, angry, and abusive physically and or verbally, projecting blaming. The gay husband creates a false identity and uses you to help maintain the facade. A Narcissist creates a false identity because they don’t have an identity of their own. The doctor ordered test on his testosterone levels he never went to take the test.Ħ.) He suffers from alcoholism, and/or drug abuse.ħ.) He suffers from narcissism. I have made a list of common gay behaviors in hopes that it will help other women who may be going through the same thing.Ģ.) We had not been intimate in ten to twelve years I lost count, and before that it was rare.ģ.) Sex was robotic or he seems inexperienced no matter how long you have been together.Ĥ.) Never bought Christmas or Birthday Gifts, in fact he hates Holidays.ĥ.) He blames depression, alcohol, and medication for not having sex even telling a doctor in front of me that he could no longer function sexually. I have met wonderful women who know exactly where I’ve been. I don’t know what I would have done without her support. I went online in search of answers and found information and help through Bonnie Kaye.
I felt like my mind had been shattered into a million pieces, but suddenly everything about my marriage finally made perfect sense. I moved to my home state of Texas, during this time I heard my husband made sexual advances to a man I know. I went ahead and left the marriage while waiting on the divorce. I started reading about narcissism, midlife crises etc., before my divorce became final. I had to know what I had lived in for the past twenty two years. I was always trying to fix things, but nothing was ever good enough. Throughout the entire marriage something was always wrong. Two and a half years ago my marriage started to unravel when he wanted out to go find himself.
I was unknowingly married to a gay man for twenty two years. Man is not what He thinks he is, He is what he hides. An excerpt from the book Signs of a Gay Husband-Identfying Closeted Gay Husband Behaviors.